Anyone who knows me knows that I am an advocate for mental health. And lately, I've been feeling down about myself so I went to the school counseling center. I vented to my therapist about not knowing what I'm going to do when I graduate, or whats my place on earth, and how half my friends are disappearing into adulthood all across America. Most of the above problems don't only pertain to me. That's why I feel like it would be a good topic for a blog post.
We have all been told a lie. When it comes to picking a career we are told to find something that we are passionate about. That we will enjoy, because then it will feel like we will never "work" a day in our lives. This drove me crazy because it seems that at 21, when I'm suppose to be coming to grips with who I am, I have no effing idea what I am going to do or who I am. And whats sad is if you were to ask America's work force, I'm fairly certain 99.9% of the people would not use the word "passionate" to define their feelings towards their job.
Doctor. Accountant. Engineer. Part of my frustration is that I am surrounded by people with their lives lined up for said professions. They know where they are going and have known for awhile. They've had to prepare for this path before even high school graduation. Those of us that are not so lucky are in a hurry once we get to college to find our career path because we think that defines us. I mean, who can blame us. Whenever someone is introduced, their name is usually followed by their occupation.. "This is Justin, he's a writer." "Meet Sarah. She's a designer." "Jake here is a lawyer." Whats that say about our society? I don't know. I guess we think it's suppose to narrow down their personality's?? Even though it's with something so vague. If Jake is a writer, he must have an extensive knowledge of literature.. Or he could write erotica for middle-aged housewives. What they could really have meant to say is "Sarah is a designer of dog kennels." And Jake, he's not some ass who helps sue the innocent.. He's actually an environmental lawyer. It's toxic for us because we don't focus on what really makes a person. What defines us is not our career. A persons morality, their ethics, and spirit are what make them. I know this is far too bohemian for some to grasp... and that makes me sad. But to all the kids out there worried because they cant decide on a degree because they aren't sure what they want to do, think of the degree as an attendance certificate. Basically, if you're not going to be a doctor, accountant, or engineer, your bachelors degree does not matter, nor does it define you. It just shows that you can show up and do the work. I know what you're thinking, "Isn't there a cheaper way to show you have a work ethic?" Unfortunately, this is how our society is structured and we have put a college degree on a pedestal.